Think about a younger girl with a present for the performing arts, raised in a conventional Jewish dwelling in Maryland and feeling a profound calling to pursue rabbinical research. Social The Life-style Journal is honored to interview Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski, recognized on Instagram as @myhotrabbi. On this interview, she shares her journey of embracing her non secular calling, discusses her work with Constructing Collectively: Constructing Relationships between Palestinians and Israelis, and displays on her household life and what it means to be a rabbi on this period. Moreover, Rabbi Jablonski explores how her coaching as an actor and performer at NYU’s Tisch Faculty of the Arts has performed a pivotal position in her journey. She can also be an completed creator, together with her memoir, Confessions of a Feminine Rabbi: Related Faith in an On-Demand World. Do you know Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski has even hosted a podcast, Shalom In Your Telephone (how cool is that)?
Meghan Forte: Are you able to share a bit about your journey to changing into a rabbi, significantly your private path by way of each Mesifta Adas Wolkowisk rabbinical seminary and NYU’s Tisch Faculty of the Arts?
Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski: It’s exhausting to sum up how an observant Jewish woman who used to dream of changing into a performer turned a rabbi in only a few sentences. In confession III of my memoir, Confessions of a Feminine Rabbi: Related Faith in an On-Demand World,I inform the complete story – however listed below are the cliff notes.
I grew up within the Maryland suburbs of Washington, DC. Proper after my very own bat mitzvah, I began working in Jewish training and prayer instruction. I taught and ready youngsters for his or her bar and bat mitzvahs (instructing Hebrew and the advanced cantillation system for Jewish scripture), however by no means thought that I would change into a rabbi. I had no ladies Rabbis to look as much as, and I believed that position may solely be held by males. As a younger grownup, I used to be extra enthusiastic about changing into a performer than a member of clergy. Whereas finding out drama at NYU’s Tisch Faculty of the Arts I met the award-winning, groundbreaking, and prolific Broadway composer and director, Elizabeth Swados. Swados solid me because the lead of a musical and we started an extended relationship engaged on performs and literary works, usually with Jewish content material. In my early twenties I nonetheless labored for a number of synagogues and households as a Hebrew trainer, b’nai mitzvah tutor, or lay chief of companies. With Swados’s steerage, I ultimately started to know I may let go of a few of my extra conventional beliefs. I stepped into my calling. I started researching rabbinical seminaries throughout the previous few weeks of Swados’ life, which was reduce quick by most cancers. I requested the recommendation of many rabbis I had beforehand labored with and understood that Mesifta Adas Wolkowisk’s program, primarily based in New York, labored finest for me.
Meghan Forte: What impressed you to create an “on-demand one-woman synagogue,” and the way do you see this mannequin reshaping the position of clergy in at the moment’s world?
Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski: The necessity for on-demand facilitators of faith is what helped me form my rabbinate as a non-institutional rabbi. Whereas I’m the product of Jewish education and synagogue membership, in my early years of instructing in New York, I met many households who had been what I name “de-shuling,” leaving their synagogues due to a handful of causes. I discovered that the principle causes for leaving a shul (that’s Yiddish for synagogue and faculty) had been time, cash, irrelevance, or one thing traumatic that occurred to repel them from holding membership. The COVID-19 Pandemic exacerbated all of this, as for practically a yr, locations of worship closed their bodily doorways to members.
To reside in New York Metropolis you must be extraordinary, but temples usually cater to a typical denominator. Some synagogues don’t have a ton of flexibility as a result of they function with boards, insurance policies, and particular non secular second necessities. What if your loved ones didn’t match the traditional mildew? Possibly a baby had a studying problem or incapacity that made synagogue Hebrew college not an possibility. Possibly a household spent weekends in one other metropolis or state. Possibly a household was present process a divorce or one mum or dad wasn’t of the Jewish religion and due to this fact felt unwelcome in a synagogue. I turned more and more conscious of the statistic that Jewish American enrollment in Hebrew college was down by practically 50% from the years 2006-2020. So, I used to be enthusiastic about those that determined that whereas Hebrew college didn’t work for them, they nonetheless wished to be Jewish and mark their lifecycle moments in a Jewish approach. I by no means inform any household to depart their home-base establishment. However for many who have left or are leaving and nonetheless need to have Jewish experiences, I can hold them concerned.
Meghan Forte: You’ve officiated many life cycle occasions, from weddings to child namings. Is there a selected second or ceremony that has profoundly impacted you?
Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski: One ceremony that I solely briefly point out in my memoir, Confessions of a Feminine Rabbi, was with a younger man who had profound bodily and developmental disabilities. For the sake of this story, let’s name him Steve. I used to be by no means given an actual analysis by Steve’s dad and mom and I by no means heard from any of his nurses as to why this boy wanted 24/7 assist and care. Steve struggled with primary motor expertise and didn’t converse clearly. His maturity stage at occasions was that of just a little boy and different occasions well past his years. He went to a college for disabled youngsters. Steve couldn’t totally specific himself with phrases however may sing alongside to any music on his iPad. Once I taught for the household and led the bat mitzvah for his older sister, Steve’s dad and mom observed how their son loved the service. Steve expressed to his dad and mom he wished to have a prayer service when he turned 13. I used to be not sure that Steve would have the ability to take part on this custom, as he must sound out sophisticated phrases in Hebrew. However he longed to have fun this milestone and longed to study extra prayers. I started instructing him aurally, so he may study prayers and songs for a modified bar mitzvah service. Every week we went by way of the prayers he already knew and tried so as to add yet one more. We at all times checked in on what Jewish vacation was approaching or learn a narrative from the Jewish bible. Classes had been difficult for numerous causes – we sat on the ground and the boy was surrounded by distracting toys and dolls that he would take breaks to point out me. His consideration was exhausting to carry; typically he simply rolled round on the ground; typically he insisted on singing a single prayer 5 occasions as a substitute of transferring on to a brand new one. After solely 6 months of coaching, from his wheelchair, Steve and I led his bar mitzvah service collectively on a superbly embellished bima (a non secular stage). There was not a dry eye in his congregation of household and buddies. Individuals had been amazed to see this youngster so completely happy and in a position to specific himself and his love of his faith by way of music– bear in mind he may barely specific his primary wants. It was all so transferring. Within the Jewish group, dad and mom beam with delight after their youngster has a coming-of-age ceremony, like a bar mitzvah. Whereas most thought Steve would by no means have the ability to take part on this custom, I used to be in a position to present him and his dad and mom pleasure and delight in his accomplishments. He had an exquisite time at his celebration as nicely. For the subsequent yr, we had classes each Saturday afternoon. Each week, we’d re-do his whole bar mitzvah ceremony, and study a brand new bible story or have fun holidays collectively. I continued my relationship with this household and I educated the youngest brother, who turned a Bar Mitzvah in 2023. My work with this household spanned 7 years, and I served the household on completely happy and tragic events. Working one-on-one, within the boutique approach that I do, was the rationale I may present this household with such unbelievable non secular experiences.
Meghan Forte: As somebody who works with synagogues and households globally, how do you navigate and mix numerous Jewish traditions and customs from completely different communities?
Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski: Jews are usually not a monolith: we come from many areas of the world and maintain completely different practices if we’re European, Spanish or from Japanese locations of origin. Typically, when working with a household that has a unique non secular or ethnic background from me (conventional Ashkenazi), I’ve to analysis melodies and rituals inside their group’s observe. Typically, nonetheless, I’ll meet a household with just one mum or dad, grandparent or member that has a singular background. I inform individuals on a regular basis that each household is an intermarriage of some variety. For instance, I’m married to a Jewish man who’s from Australia however his dad and mom had been raised in Japanese Europe. My dad and mom additionally got here from completely different backgrounds (my father was from an observant background and my mom was secular and had Israeli citizenship). Many households have an attention-grabbing make-up: I’ve one pupil with a Pakistani/non-Jewish mum or dad. I’ve one other pupil whose mom was Mexican and Catholic. I serve individuals who have a mum or dad who has transformed however their grandparents are usually not Jewish. Being a clergy member within the fashionable world calls for that I’m welcoming and versatile for the entire members of our broader communities. As a result of I craft particular person companies for every household, every service can have parts that replicate their household’s distinctive make-up. For some, it might be prayers in one other language moreover English or Hebrew. For some, it means further readings to make non-Jewish company snug. For a lot of with relations who are usually not Jewish, the household wishes the entire Jewish conventional customs with adjusted explanations earlier than every prayer.
Meghan Forte: Your involvement in Constructing Collectively: Constructing Relationships between Palestinians and Israelis is notable. How do you method fostering dialogue and understanding in such a fancy and infrequently polarized area?
Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski: With any problem, I flip to scripture and commandments to work my approach by way of. The Outdated Testomony instructs us to “love thy neighbor” (Leviticus 19:18). By the best way, the world’s most well-known former Rabbi, Jesus, preached and taught the identical to his followers. Basically, Judaism’s texts promote a loving relationship with G-d, his individuals, and all peoples. Israelis and Palestinians are neighbors and human beings, every deserving of dignity and love. Once I come again to this primary precept, I see the necessity for optimistic interactions that may result in optimistic relationships and enterprise partnerships between Palestinians and Israelis.
Each peoples rely on agriculture, reside in the identical area, and maintain related considerations. Each peoples harvest produce and promote to their markets. Constructing Collectively launched the 2 communities to allow them to share finest practices and co-design equivalent services to streamline their income. Constructing Collectively raises cash to reward keen Israeli and Palestinian communities with all-expenses-paid factories to create a co-owned and co-branded product: date honey. This honey is offered within the USA, largely at religion establishments and universities. The income are break up between the 2 communities and enhance high quality of life on either side. As an increasing number of communities will see the upside of working collectively, this course of will develop to an increasing number of communities. By being an middleman and doing the work to search out peaceable and keen events from Palestinian and Israeli populations, Constructing Collectively is making an attempt to actually have an effect on change within the Center East. Really nearly all of Palestinians and Israelis are average and need the most effective for one another. We assist facilitate a sensible effort.
Constructing Collectively’s board is equal elements Christian, Jewish, and Muslim. All members are devoted to creating the lives higher for the inhabitants of Israel and Palestine. Typically even board members don’t interpret present occasions in the identical approach. We’re not a political group however see we each acknowledge our fortune and risk to assist. It doesn’t matter what, we’re neighbors and behave neighborly. We maintain area for one another’s experiences and attempt to have productive dialogue. Typically we comply with pause after we understand we’re taking place a path with no decision. Extra usually, we now have a lot in widespread with our humanity. As leaders, we proceed to return again to that.
Meghan Forte: With so many adjustments in how individuals connect with religion, particularly amongst youthful generations, how do you retain Judaism related and significant to the group?
Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski: Firstly, I lead by instance, balancing my very own lifestyle as deeply Jewish however engaged in fashionable life. Then I acknowledge that every scenario, household or particular person in entrance of me is exclusive and has their very own mishigas – idiosyncrasies which have introduced them to me. Religion is private, observe is private and I’ve to get to know the individual(s) I’m working with. I additionally determine what practices or beliefs from the vastness of Judaism can be related to every cohort that I facilitate for. I lean into their pursuits and open the door to spiritual thought and observe by way of that curiosity or thought. The remaining takes care of itself. Judaism is attention-grabbing, enjoyable, musical and complicated. There may be at all times a approach in. Speaking with the usage of know-how and staying updated on traits and popular culture the best way this era communicates is so essential. I textual content. I dm. I’ve just a little canine who goes in all places with me. I’m a rabbi for this century, on this century.
Meghan Forte: How does your background within the arts from NYU affect your method to instructing, officiating, and group constructing?
Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski: Anybody in a public going through job has to have public talking expertise. My coaching as an actor has helped me finetune this expertise. I’m additionally a rabbi that sings and reads music. I punctuate non secular occasions with musical parts, drawing from up to date Jewish composers in addition to historical melodies. I’ve working relationships with many musicians so as to add to the ambiance of any ceremony. I’m additionally conscious that whereas non secular ceremonies usually are usually not scripted, they observe an order that permits for improvisation and feeding off of an viewers. As a rabbi, I alter my phrases primarily based on every group I serve and their real-time suggestions. I’ve to be humorous and current – expertise I honed in my craft as a performer.
Meghan Forte: What recommendation do you have got for ladies aspiring to management roles inside non secular communities, significantly in areas historically dominated by males?
Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski: Girls can do every thing males can do, however not everybody desires that. Take dangers, break by way of, encourage as you need to, and know there are going to be many parishioners enthusiastic about your providing. Nonetheless, some is not going to approve, and they’re as free to decide on as you’re. Be sturdy and courageous. Pay attention fastidiously to clues from guides above that can allow you to craft your observe.
Meghan Forte: Are you able to speak about how your work in charity and advocacy intersects together with your position as a rabbi?
Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski: It’s a Jewish command to interact in acts of justice and charity. Not solely rabbis should fulfill that command. However as a rabbi, I need to lead by instance. I’ve discovered causes that match my values like supporting veterans, cooking for the meals insecure, Israel advocacy, and Constructing relationships between Israelis and Palestinians by way of farming. My husband and I are members of varied arts organizations and museums and donate to most fundraisers which are essential to our community of family and friends. Donating or doing acts of charity throughout important milestones is a approach that my husband and I have fun as nicely. We had a charity venture in honor of our wedding ceremony and infrequently combine our birthday celebrations with causes for which we care.
As a rabbi, the individuals I serve come to me for suggestions for charities to contain themselves with. Their distinctive pursuits and causes hold me studying about extra organizations and methods to assist the better world. Whether or not it’s with volunteering or fundraising, all of us have one thing to present and there are a lot of worthy organizations to hitch. Typically individuals want artistic concepts to get began and I assist individuals determine it out.
Meghan Forte: How has your private life, together with your relationship together with your husband, Ben, and your canine, Scout, formed your perspective as a rabbi and educator?
Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski: Each rabbi I do know has an all-encompassing job with little or no time for private socializing. My canine, Scout, comes with me to almost all my appointments in per week, whether or not I’m instructing, assembly, finding out or making an look for considered one of my literary tasks. I’ve such lengthy days, I carry frozen pet food with me that thaws over the course of my day and he eats his dinner on the go.
Basically, as a result of being a rabbi is my life, I share my life and am weak with the households I serve. They make me cry and I make them cry. They know my hopes and emotions. As a result of I share my struggles and joys with them, they will do the identical with me. Conventional clergy normally preserve distance to maintain a sense of authority and gravitas of their communities. I lead with openness and informality. It’s my expertise that this method creates a hotter and extra non secular atmosphere for all.
My husband is an entrepreneur and leads a really busy life, as nicely. Continuously, evenings out with my husband are charitable occasions or considered one of my shoppers’ lifecycle occasions. We each get pleasure from an opportunity to decorate up for a celebration, although are equally completely happy watching the information or a tv-series on the sofa late at evening. As a result of Ben believes what I do is essential and I really feel equally about his work, we’re understanding of the calls for on our time. I’m extraordinarily fortunate that Ben loves Scout and can also be amenable to Scout accompanying us on each trip – together with our mini-moon (at Sanctuary at Camelback Mountain in Scottsdale, AZ).
As a younger rabbi who maintains a busy observe, I had little or no time to dedicate to journey and relationships. Now that I’m married, I hope that, with the urging of my husband, I discover area for a extra balanced life.
Amid the realities of our ever-changing world, Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski’s journey epitomizes the significance of following one’s coronary heart and instinct on a deeply private and non secular path. By sharing her story, she emphasizes the importance of religion, grit, and openness to vary.
Along with her position as a rabbi, Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski is a non-public educator, performer, creator, and entrepreneur. She understands the numerous hats a rabbi wears, serving people from numerous walks of life each inside her temple and within the broader group. For the youthful readers, Rabbi Jablonski can also be the creator of a youngsters’s guide titled Dinotsaurus.
Thanks, Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski, for shaping the lives of the subsequent era together with your non secular teachings and serving others with kindness. We recognize your willingness to share an intimate glimpse into your journey.
Companies out there by way of Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski’s web site embrace Judaic Research and Hebrew Training, ceremony officiation, tutoring within the religion (together with conversion tutoring), and the creation of individualized prayer books for Bar or Bat Mitzvahs, weddings, or household occasions, incorporating private touches.
Jablonski is an alumnus of the Charles E. Smith Jewish Day Faculty, New York College’s Tisch Faculty of the Arts, and obtained semicha (rabbinic ordination) from the yeshiva Mesifta Adath Wolkowisk in New York.
Jablonski’s most up-to-date guide, the memoir, Confessions of a Feminine Rabbi: Related Faith in an On-Demand World, is a compelling learn that shouldn’t be neglected.
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